This is a cool commenecement speech by Dennis Prager.
by Dennis Prager
Following is the commencement address Dennis Prager gave to the 1997 graduating class of Pepperdine University.
I would like to offer you seven ideas. Thatâ€™s all I want to do. If you fall asleep during one of them, there are six remaining. If you fall asleep during five, maybe youâ€™ll get two ideas.
But I want to just give you seven ideas culled from one humanâ€™s life that I think can be very powerful in the way you live your lives when you leave this institution.
In no order of importance:
One: The Greatest Struggle Is with Yourself
The greatest struggle in your life is not with society; it is with yourself. This idea is not taught in America today. We are taught that we are victims of a society that is sexist, racist, ageist, anti-Semitic, anti-Asian, anti-Hispanic, anti-woman, anti-old, anti-young â€” anti just about everyone. The temptation is therefore overwhelming to see your problems and challenges in life as being with America and not with yourself.
There is a man in Florida, a psychiatrist â€” he is, fortunately, not representative of his profession â€” who tells women, â€œNever take an anti-depressant, even if you are diagnosed with biological reasons for depression, because no woman is depressed for biological reasons. Any woman who is depressed is depressed because of sexism.â€
Whatever you are, there is something to blame in todayâ€™s society: â€œI shot my parents, but it wasnâ€™t my fault.â€ You yourselves have lived through this.
Please understand: In this society, my greatest challenge is Dennis, your greatest challenge is you. And if you can make you better, you will make this society better. Please donâ€™t buy the rhetoric that the external is the problem. In a free and affluent country like this, we are the problem.
Two: Trust Your Common Sense
Mark Twain was right when he said, â€œCommon sense isnâ€™t common.â€ Nevertheless, please use this great gift of God, your common sense, when, outside of the natural sciences, you hear the words, â€œstudies show,â€ and you find that the studies show the opposite of what common sense suggests.
As someone who is twice your age, who has been on radio fifteen years, and has debated these issues daily for fifteen years, may I tell you that I have never once come across a valid study that contravened common sense.
Nearly always studies either substantiate common sense or they are wrong. That is a general rule of life. That doesnâ€™t mean, donâ€™t take studies seriously. It means take common sense most seriously.
People call me up and tell me â€œstudies showâ€ that it doesnâ€™t matter if a child has a mother and a father, that it is just as good to have one loving parent or two fathers or two mothers. â€œStudies showâ€ this. Thatâ€™s nonsense. Of course it matters if you donâ€™t have a father or donâ€™t have a mother. Does it mean you are doomed if you donâ€™t have one â€” if one died or if one left? No, it doesnâ€™t mean youâ€™re doomed. The human spirit is powerfully resilient, thank God. Nevertheless, itâ€™s a flawed â€œstudyâ€ if it claims to show both parents arenâ€™t necessary. A greater study â€” life in every civilization â€” leads to a different conclusion. The study of life shows that it is good for a child to have a mom and a dad.
This issue is a big battle in America today because of the powerful forces that say, â€œItâ€™s just as wonderful for a single woman to be inseminatedâ€ or â€œItâ€™s just as wonderful for two women or two men to raise a child,â€ as it is for a child to have a mother and father.
And know that this issue has nothing to do with womenâ€™s rights, and nothing to do with gay rights. It has to do with something too few people talk about â€” childrenâ€™s rights. Children have a right to have a mother and a father. Thatâ€™s common sense, simple common sense.
I was told when I was in your place, in college, in the heyday of certain ideas in the late â€˜60s, that â€œstudies showâ€ that boys and girls are not inherently different, they differ only because parents give boys guns and give girls dolls. So the dummies who believed that â€œstudies showâ€ that boys and girls are essentially the same decided to raise their boys with dolls and their girls with trucks. And what happened? The boys broke the dollsâ€™ arms, and the girls cuddled the trucks.
Of course, there are enormous differences between boys and girls â€” life and common sense show this, not necessarily â€œstudies.â€ A woman professor at Stanford wrote an article in the New York Times about ten years ago. She wrote that she was one of those who believed that boys and girls are essentially the same, that all the differences (except the obvious biological) are all societally induced. Then she had a son, and then a daughter, and she saw how wrong she had been.
The greatest of the â€œstudiesâ€ is the study of life, not some abstract study. Keep studying it, and trust your common sense.
Three: Race is Unimportant
Be guided by an idea of a Jew who went through a Nazi death camp. He miraculously survived, though his wife and his parents were gassed.
After the Holocaust, he was asked, â€œDo you hate all Germans?â€
And he said, â€œNo, I donâ€™t.â€
â€œBecause,â€ he said, â€œthere are only two races, the decent and the indecent.â€
Remember that, and you will never, ever, for one scintilla of a moment, have a racist belief. If you divide humanity between black and non-black, white and non-white, brown and non-brown, yellow and non-yellow, you are, by definition, racist. If you divide the world simply between decent people and indecent people, you canâ€™t be a racist because every race has good and bad members. If you divide by moral rather than racial terms, you are liberated from even the possibility of ingesting the toxin of racism.
Remember that statement. His name is Viktor Frankl. I read his book Manâ€™s Search for Meaning, when I was in high school, and it was one of the few books that changed my life.
Graduates, in this race-intoxicated society, please know that as countercultural, as politically incorrect as it is, race is trivial. Race means nothing. The color of a humanâ€™s skin is as trivial as the color of a humanâ€™s hair. That is not todayâ€™s politically correct belief. But it is the belief rooted in every sacred tradition from the East to the West â€” including my Judaism and your Christianity. God does not know the color of skin. God knows the character of a human heart. Period.
Four: Donâ€™t Leave Your Values at Home
Whatever you do in your professional life, donâ€™t leave your values at home when you go to work.
Most people in my profession are decent people â€” who leave their decent values at home when they go to work. At work, they produce a lot of garbage, garbage that many of them donâ€™t want their own children to see. But they produce it because the gods of ratings â€” the god of Nielsen, the god of Arbitron â€” demand it.
The hardest of the Ten Commandments is not the commandment against adultery, nor the one against murder, nor the one against theft. It is the commandment against having false gods. Among most of those in my profession, the gods of Nielsen and Arbitron are worshipped far more than God.
You have to determine, when you walk out of your home, what god you will worship.
Five: Beware of Bad Ideas
We are living in the last three years of the bloodiest, meanest, cruelest, most torturous and barbaric century in the history of human life. Please never assume that moral progress is inevitable. This century is the century of gas chambers and gulags. This is the century of totalitarianism, red and brown.
Do you know why most evil takes place? Not because people are bad, but because they have bad ideas. Be careful to avoid bad ideas.
Iâ€™ll give you a quick way to measure if an idea is good. Ask two questions: Does this make people kinder? Does this hold people morally accountable? Nazism could not answer that it makes people kinder. Communism could not answer that it holds people morally accountable; all you had to do was hasten the revolution.
I donâ€™t know of an improvement over Leviticus 19:18. â€œLove your neighbor as yourself. I am God.â€ No new idea has supplanted that one.
Six: Behavior Matters More than Intentions
That you mean to do good or that you are sincere doesnâ€™t mean a thing to the other six billion people on earth. The only thing that matters to all of us is how you act. God cares about your heart, but the rest of humanity cares about your behavior. Saying â€œI want good to be doneâ€ but not doing any good; crying for the poor, but not giving charity or hiring a poor person â€” none of your good intentions mean a thing.
And on the other side, having selfish intentions and doing good is okay. Itâ€™s better to have good intentions, but if good comes out of whatâ€™s selfish, that is what counts. The good that is done, not intended, is what matters.
Capitalism is rooted in selfishness much more than Communism, but communism murdered nearly one hundred million people this century, while capitalism has been the engine of democracy. So be very careful when you judge a system not to judge its intention or its rhetoric. Judge its results.
Seven: Religion is the True Counterculture
People think counterculture is dressing weird, or having every possible part of the body pierced. Thatâ€™s not counterculture. If you do this, Iâ€™m not commenting on whether you should or not. But donâ€™t think for a moment that this is taking a stand for some counterculture or that it takes guts.
Iâ€™ll tell you what takes guts in America today. The ultimate counterculture is to take God and religion seriously. Do you want to stand independent? When I turned down an extremely lucrative offer of having an afternoon drive-time radio show, the most lucrative part of radio except for the morning drive I said, â€œI canâ€™t. I do not broadcast on my Sabbath. When the sun goes down on Friday, I stop working.â€
Thatâ€™s my counterculture. My religion says you have to observe the Sabbath, and somehow or other I have found this to be more important than even a better job in my profession. I have been amply rewarded by that decision: I have a Sabbath with my family; I donâ€™t work seven days a week; I donâ€™t live in front of my computer; my wife isnâ€™t a computer widow and my kids see their father.
Yes, it takes guts and even sometimes the loss of a job, though that has never been involved, thank God, in my life. But thatâ€™s counterculture.
When you can say, â€œNo, Iâ€™m sorry; as tempting as that is [whatever that may be], I cannot do it,â€ others respect you, and you will respect you. When you know to whom you are accountable and you ultimately march to the beat of a higher drummer, you lead a more peaceful life.
The temptation to do what everybody else does is enormous, yet it is a guarantor of unhappiness, not just a guarantor of doing the wrong thing. Be true to your faith. It will ultimately work. And itâ€™s perhaps even more powerful that I, being of a different faith than you â€” I am a religious Jew â€” am saying this to Christians. Itâ€™s more powerful because I obviously have no theological ax to grind.
I need you. I, a fellow American, need you to be a good Christian. As the Supreme Court Justice Louis D. Brandeis said about Jews, â€œA good Jew will be a good American,â€ I am telling you that a good Christian will be a good American.
I interviewed those black heroes who saved the white trucker Reginald Denny during the riots. Three of the four of them were active Christians. But the media, my profession, doesnâ€™t report that. It shows you only the bad, the nihilistic. They donâ€™t report about the religious impulse that animated such people because it doesnâ€™t serve their own interest. Media people are almost all radically secular. But it was very moving to me to meet these people.
I conclude, therefore, with a prayer from my own religion. I will say it to you in the original Hebrew, but I will, do not fear, translate it for you. And as we pray in Judaism with a kippah, a yarmulke. I will put mine on and offer it to you.
May God bless and guard over you. May God shine His countenance lovingly upon you. And may He give you a peaceful life.
Copyright Â© 1998 Dennis Prager. All rights reserved. International copyright secured. Reprinted, with permission, from The Prager Perspective.
Dennis Prager is author, lecturer and radio talk show host on KABC in Los Angeles. His books include Happiness Is a Serious Problem; Think a Second Time, 44 essays on 44 subjects; The Nine Questions People Ask About Judaism; and Why the Jews? The Reason for Antisemitism. In addition to writing for Commentary, the Wall Street Journal and The Los Angeles Times, he lectures internationally and on occasion, conducts orchestras.